Many parents report changes in their sexual lives while breastfeeding. Physical changes in our bodies during the post-partum period and lactation, lack of sleep, and the demands of caring for young children all contribute to a shifting sense of self, including our experiences of ourselves as sexual beings. Whatever you are experiencing, from increased desire, to no desire at all, and everything in between, others have been there before you.
If you read this headline and thought to yourself "huh?! Because this is a topic that, until recently, hasn't been well-researched, many people have the experience of arousal or orgasm during breastfeeding, and then feel shame or guilt, as if there is something wrong with them. This is especially unfortunate since there is a well-understood reason for the experience, and understanding why it happens can go a long way to alleviate shame and embarrassment.
Expectant and new parents have many concerns regarding the relationship between sexuality and breastfeeding. How is a new mother's libido affected by breastfeeding? Why do some women get sexually excited when breastfeeding?
It's only natural to hear something you find extreme and immediately feel skeptical, pass judgment, or think that because you don't experience said thing, that there MUST be something wrong with people who do. I want to urge you to sit with any feelings that arise and then attempt to put yourself in the shoes of the people who are experiencing what I'm discussing today. While it may not change your long term opinions on the subject, it may help you better understand the topic and why we need to be talking about it.
I mean really, a mother could go from feeding her baby to messing around in the bedroom in the span of minutes, so how weird is it that one act is so sexual and the other so not? For some women, breastfeeding itself can be a turn-on. Arousal during breastfeeding is rare, but it does happen and one study theorized that women can get turned on during breastfeeding just as they would with sexual foreplay because the two acts have similarities, such as:.
When I nursed my two children, my relationship with my breasts changed. I saw them less as sexual objects that filled out my sweaters and more like the sole source of my baby's nutrition. This probably also had to do with the fact that I nursed so much that I hardly had time to think about sex.
Oxytocin is a hormone produced by the pituitary gland in the brain. It has many functions in the human body. It increases relaxation, lowers stress and anxiety, lowers blood pressure, and causes muscle contractions.
Q: Doctor, I am 28 years old and a wife and mother. But I have to confess something so awful that I cannot believe it is happening. I feel like a very evil person.